I lost my daddy when I was 9. I am now 16 and I still miss him so much. I still don't believe it. I cry every night when I say goodnight to a picture of him. Most nights I cry till I fall asleep. I really want to talk to people who are going through the same thing. I don't feel like I can talk to my mum about it because she thinks I am okay. She knows I get upset from time to time but I don't quite think she realises how much.

My love and thoughts are with you all. I lost one of my best freinds many years ago to an accidental shooting on his parents farm by others tourists just out "having fun". Please know my family and I send you love and courage to get through this. Alanna

My husband Paul died on the 8th July 2009 leaving behind his 2 children Molly 8 and Jack 7, he had 2 malignant brain tumours, he tried but failed to overcome his very short illness with chemotherapy and radiotherapy, he lived for just under 5 months from diagnosis to death, he was 38. He left us with such wonderful memories and his zest for life will live on in all of those he met. He was a larger than life character and was just not meant to get old and grey. My children were very brave and we told them everything at the time and they seemed to cope so well it is only now 6 months on that the grief is really taking a grip, Molly struggles with any change and doesn't like the fact that life has to go on, it is so devastating to see her loss, my son just misses his dad's cuddles and gets angry from time to time, life is unfair but we have to go on, this is the hardest part living and going on without him. Forever hopeful Maria x

Sheila Pearson, Mum you loved me even when i made you angry, you loved and cared for me for just over 13 years then you were cruelly taken from me 16/12/09, i'll make you proud wherever you are i will follow my dream, i remember our pen fight in the kitchen, fi's graduation these are the memories that make me smile, keep watching over me and keep me strong when more times in my life get tough love you always Ruthie Peggs XXX

Summer sunday dinners, table loaded with salad foods, lots of cheeriness. A bit like Ma & Pa Larkin, in that old story 'the darling buds of may', well, that's how it seemed anyway. Really sad, 'cause the aggressive people running our world would have seen them as nobodies, and they just wouldn't see that kind of thing as of any importance to the world, not see it is an 'achievement' or anything, just as a waste of time, not worth bothering with, not 'earning' anything. But I know different.

My granddad was the most amazing thing that ever touched my heart. He was the life and soul of our family and there is one question that no one can answer. Why was he taken? He was my hero, my best friend. He was tattered by cancer and God just ragged him around like a rag doll. Why? Why him? Why could he not stay with me so I could show him all the love I have for him? He had cancer for ten years and he fought through it. The worst thing is it was not his time to die. No, there was nothing that made him die that day but the doctors. I love granddad. I hope you can still hear me when I talk to you cause you were the only one I could talk to and you still are. I love you so much, Kenneth. You are the worlds greatest, the star in the sky, the apple of my eye and my HERO. All the family miss you so much. Granny takes your ashes everywhere she goes in the house. We are all going through a lot of pain but are all trying not to cry cause we know u don't like it when we cry. Love you, Granddad. Look after us and can't wait to see you. I promise I will make you very proud. Love loads, Michaela

My twin, Euona, died when I was three from melangitus in 1971. This is my first and dominant memory - I was three - it was snowing - I remember looking out of the window at night - speechless and emotionless. I asked for my room to be painted deep purple. The pain and saddness is someting I live with day by day. I am now 40 and still working with this experience.

My family have never discussed her death with me - it was and is still too painful for them. Sharing this pain is so essential to contain and allow for deep inner healing for everyone. I think they thought that by moving on from it I would not get stuck or too attached to this deep loss.

This has been and is one of the most painful experiences in my life and has affected my whole sense of self and the world around me. I am still healing through making of containers for my tears that I will cry till the day I die. I miss my sister Euona, and know that perhaps I also idealise our relationship - the coulds, would and might haves. I miss my sister so much and as I get older the more I miss her the more I idealise her. I hope that anybody who loses their twin receives support and healing - I have found Art Therapy and Shamanic Healing great tools of healing and containment . It really is a challenging lesson and deep soul learning in this life. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU EOUNA OXO

Emma

My thoughts are with you and your family. We are all here for you.

sending you our love and any strength we have

Sylvana, Andrew and Elie-Rose x

I love dad

To Emma, Jack and Will,

Our hearts and thoughts are with you at this tragic time. we are so sorry for your loss. joe was a wonderful little boy. We missed you this weekend.

Monique, Jessica and Max (from Grief Encounter workshops)

Emma, Will and Jack,

We are so sorry about your tragic loss. Joe was such an adorable little boy. Our thought are with you.

Monique, Jessica and Max (from Grief Encouner Workshops)

Hey Emma
It's Debs from work, i'm soooo sorry - just gutted for you and u're boys! Keep strong, and reading all these lovely messages I can see there's sooo much love coming you're way!! This makes Boogie for Good's next night so important! Sending you loads of hugs and kisses and happy strong thoughts!!
Debs xxx

There just is no explanation for the accident that happened. Shelley x

My love, peace and thoughts are with you all. Hold the precious memories you have close to your heart. All my love Teresa xx

Peace and comfort to Will, Joe, Jack and Emma. Please know that you are in my thoughts and I send you strength, love and hope.
Andrew from Grief Encounter.