supporting bereaved children & young people
supporting bereaved children & young people
International humanitarian disasters, such as the Moroccan earthquakes that have taken place this weekend, can have devastating effects on individuals and communities around the world. Coping with the trauma, and grief that result from these events can be overwhelming, along with sympathetic grief which comes from exposure to the events, and stories of families affected, in the wider International media. It might be difficult to have a conversation with children and young people around the events taking place in Morocco, especially if you have been directly affected by the tragedy.
Here is some advice on coping with the news of a widely publicised humanitarian disaster if you have been directly affected by a bereavement as a result, or if you have been affected by the news; and advice on talking to children about the events in the news.
Grief is a natural response, and in the event of a humanitarian disaster, it can encompass a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, and confusion. It’s essential to recognize and accept your grief as a normal reaction to the tragedy. Grief is a highly individual experience, and there is no “right” or “wrong” way to grieve. People may react differently, and it’s important to respect each person’s unique process.
Reach out to friends, family members, or support groups who can provide comfort and understanding during this time. Sharing your feelings with others who are experiencing similar feelings can be beneficial. If your struggling, seek help from a professional. Community support can also be helpful, and in the face of a national or international disaster, communities can often come together to create local support groups or community events to connect and support their own, and the victims of the crisis.
Taking care of your physical and emotional well-being is essential during times of grief. Ensure you eat well, sleep, and exercise when possible. Find ways to comfortably express your grief through any method – writing, art, music, or talking with a trusted adult, friend or professional.
Many organizations specialize in providing support to individuals and communities affected by disasters. Contact local and international humanitarian organizations and charities for assistance, resources, and information about available services.
The Grief Encounter helpline, grieftalk, is available for immediate support and listening services, every day 9am – 9pm on 0808 802 0111, or you can email us on grieftalk@griefencounter.org.uk
Talking to Children About an International Disaster, and Death in the News
Discussing an international disaster that has resulted in mass deaths with children and young people can be challenging. Here is some guidance from Grief Encounter to help you approach this conversation and help process what they may be seeing in the media or discussing at School.
Find a quiet, comfortable place where you can have an open and honest conversation and reassure your child that their feelings are normal, whether they feel sad, scared, confused, or angry.
Start by asking your child what they’ve heard or seen in the news. This allows you to gauge their understanding and clarify any misconceptions, then present the facts in a balanced way, focusing on the essential details without unnecessary descriptions.
Tailor the information to the child’s age and maturity level. Younger children may need simpler explanations, while older children can have more detailed discussions. Explain the situation in straightforward terms without unnecessary graphic details. For example, you can say, “There was a very big earthquake in Morocco, and many people got hurt. The UK is helping support those people. “
Depending on the situation, explain the context of the death and its significance. For example, as this was a natural disaster, you can discuss the importance of disaster preparedness and recovery efforts and re-enforce the unlikelihood of it happening somewhere like the UK.
Highlight the heroes and helpers in these situations, such as doctors, rescue workers, charities, and volunteers. Explain how people come together to support one another during events such as these and reassure that help will be given to those who need it.
Be prepared for questions and answer them honestly. If you don’t know the answer, it’s okay to offer to find the information together online or by contacting an organisation providing support.
Shield children from distressing images and news coverage that might be too intense for them. Monitor their media consumption, including online, and choose age-appropriate content.
Stick to regular routines as much as possible. Predictability and stability can help children feel secure during uncertain times. Encourage them to express their feelings through art, writing, or play and offer hugs or comfort as needed.
Keep an eye on your child’s emotional well-being in the days following the discussion. If they continue to be upset or anxious, offer additional support and, if necessary, seek professional guidance.
Let your child know that you’re available to talk whenever they want. Revisit the topic to check in on their feelings and provide updates as and when available.
The Grief Encounter helpline, grieftalk, is available for immediate support and listening services, every day 9am – 9pm on 0808 802 0111, or you can email us on grieftalk@griefencounter.org.uk
