When someone special dies, it is called a bereavement. We usually have very strong reactions: feelings, and thoughts. Our bodies react too . This is called grief or grieving, You may go through all kinds of feelings: sadness, worry, anxiety,confusion,shocked, angry, guilty…or nothing at all after the first initial reaction (numb) These are normal reactions and can go on for ages. We call it a “spiral” of grief: all sorts of feelings come back and forward in different ways at different times, but less deep and overwhelming.This is a slow process and takes a LONG time.It often depends on what you are doing or if there are big changes in your life, such as moving school.
We asked some young bereaved people what they wanted from this website. The death of someone special, especially a parent or brother and sister had changed their lives forever. Not all bad, but some very difficult stuff to deal with. They wanted to feel less alone, to feel more normal and to make some meaning out of what has happened to them.
Their homes felt different now, often sad and there was a BIG empty space. Friends were good and bad. But, worst of all, other people’s lives seemed to go back to normal but theirs was VERY different.
MAKING CHANGES: As young people, there are things we have to do to get through this: make sure we are heard and understood by the adults around us.Its not a great place to be, but we can come through this stronger and a better person.
HOT TOPICS: You may wonder how can I get through this,how long does it last,when will things get back to normal or how do I go on?
So… lets create a community and hear from bereaved young people. Send us your story, blog and send us your thoughts and feelings on other young people’s stories.
Rant and rave!